Currently my life consists of many various ingredients that go into the cake that is Maria Pondo. One starts with an 18th year old girl. Then you add the spices like Polish 100% and Roman Catholic by her own choosing. Being single tops the list of things that are me. Well you factor in my upbringing and environment and you get this – me! You envision a girl who worships every Sunday, is generally concerned with the world as a whole. She loves her heritage and finds it is a part of her heart. Being single is something I have just come to accept. Some things haven’t worked out in the past, but I can’t love someone who will hurt me, and I have been hurt so much, I don’t expect it to happen to me; for someone to come into my life because they care. My standing on marriage is this. It is that both people play an equal role. Respect, honesty, honor, love, and genuine care are merely the basic building blocks of a healthy marriage. Trust is a huge factor. Respecting a woman’s body and wishes in terms of a career. If she wishes to be a housewife, and then by all means be the best you can be. However, if she wishes upon a career and a man denies her this, he is doing both parties a disservice by acting selfishly. Agreeing upon the raising of children is extremely important. The final block of it is a multilayered balance of time between various activities and with the ones you love. Maybe you don’t want to compromise, but let me ask you something. When you get that promotion and your life is thus propelling forward that’s nice, but doe it means anything if you’re alone?
With marriage I believe that the male cannot be dominant as my current life status believes, and that the mother cannot forego her power as a mother. Also, they need to understand what’s best for their partner, not just themselves. To reiterate the point of allowing the mother to choose her career or work out a compromise not just the male. Nothing should be forced. You should act together flawlessly as one. Granted there with be problems as no one is perfect, you by having a solid base of honesty, honor, trust, and respect and work on it when times get tough. Without that base, you need to understand that abuse, infidelity, or separation may follow. I am a strong woman would will not subordinate to commands. I was taught to not be “high maintenance”, but I don’t think some chivalry is so hard to ask for.
The two view points are as different as the sun and the moon. One is the current life that I have on this Earth. One of suffering, but happiness too like life should be. One that makes me feel complete to do hard work, but to find wiggle room to mingle and have fun in a safe environment. I realize from this that I would never change anything about myself, not even my illness. I’m ten times stronger as a result. I will love, live, and do it all. I could potentially live to see all my dreams come true. I understand now how much of a different life I could have by playing with many attributes that make me who I am. Do you know what? Dreams are wonders, and they never retire. I can have a stable marriage with a man who loves me for who I am. He will respect me. I would not marry someone if they weren’t the one. So, fulfilling your hopes and dreams is the way to be. I will care about myself and that very special someone. Together we will bond and form a structured lifestyle without commands and without skeletons in the closet. It is what I choose. My current life would be cold and empty any other way.